Are movies good for a first date?
“Dinner and a movie” may sound like the most boring, clichéd date ever, but I think movie dates are hot. When you go to the movies with someone, you learn a lot about them: what kinds of films they like, whether they pay for the tickets, how they behave in the theater.
You may not be talking during the movie, but there’s a lot to be said for body language.
I’ve had some hot times in movie theaters. In some cases, I can’t quite recall what movie I saw. One was a first date with a friend of a friend that started off rather timidly; we went for drinks and then to a movie, and I wasn’t sure exactly what he thought of me.
At some point, we started holding hands, and soon my focus was almost entirely on how his hand felt in mine, on the way his thumb traced my palm, half tickling, half making my stomach do flip-flops. We didn’t know each other well, but we were certainly aware of our attraction, and the silence and darkness of the theater let us act on it without awkwardness.
Film critic and “Accidentally on Purpose” author Mary Pols thinks movies don’t make for great dates. “It’s both too intimate, sitting silently next to someone you don’t really know, and too limiting; you can’t get to know them better … if you still have the energy. I find movies fairly draining — although that could be because I’m always working at them-and the last thing I want to do is process in front of someone who might be judging as to whether I’m second or third date worthy.”
I politely disagree. Yes, there’s two hours of silence, but there’s also making the plan to meet up, waiting for the movie to start, eating the popcorn, dissecting it afterward, all of which can give you insight into what a guy is like and giving you something other than yourselves to talk about.
My friend Aaron Dobbs, who blogs about movies and works for a local film festival, is on the nay side, too. “A movie is definitely not good for a date at the beginning of a relationship,” he says. “First, you can’t really get to know each other, and no matter how well you both may enjoy the performance, you’re not learning whether or not you’ll enjoy each other.
But even worse, let’s say that during your pre-movie activity you realize that you’re not connecting, then suddenly you’re stuck sitting next to this person in the dark for two hours. Chances are, it might be difficult to even make the best of it and enjoy the movie.”